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clear the dumping ground on counters and desks
Is your desk, counter top or kitchen table the dumping ground for lots of junk, paper and stuff? Do you or others comes in and throw things on the pile because you don’t know what else to do with it?

Lots of homes have these dumping grounds, it is a common problem. In our house that dumping ground is my husband’s desk. Not a working desk, he actually NEVER sits at the desk. It is really just a place to dump crap as he comes in. it drives me crazy as it is in the middle of our main floor and can be seen from pretty much all areas of the main floor.

Today, I came up with a solution to save my sanity and maybe my relationship hehe…after 26 years I think I finally figured out how we can both win.

Here are my tips and what I have done:

Get The Right FurnitureGet the right furniture- I finally realized I needed a space he could dump stuff but I did not have to look at it. So a small desk with a hidden compartment and not much flat surface is what I am using. Look for something that you can close up when you don’t want to look at junk.

Containerize – I now have 3 drawers that some of his other crap can go in if he needs the space. If you don’t have room for a new desk, then think about getting containers for people to use to hid the stuff. It may not be perfect but at least it will contain some of the chaos so it is not spreading over all the counters and desk top.

Relax and stop trying to control others…or make them change – change the environment not the person, it is really hard to ‘make’ someone care about being organized or care if things are clear. But most people will respect you for trying to accommodate them and you will feel less stressed when you let go of the control. Trying to create a system that works for both of you is the idea here, not perfection!

I know that blank spaces always fill up with junk, eliminate the blank space by giving it a purpose. Remove the desk if that is not working and use containers…if there is a place to put things most people will try to use it.

If you are struggling with paper chaos and are ready to take action, I have great news for you. I have a new online program that starts March 15th called Calm the Paper Chaos. Check it out here: www.CalmThePaperChaos.com and sign up today.

Happy Decluttering,

Kim

5 Tips on releasing family treasures nobody wants

Have you become your family landfill? Do you have all these family treasures that have memories or are family heirlooms that nobody wants but they also don’t want you to get rid of them.

It is possible to preserve the memories without keeping everything and without being the family landfill. You do not have to keep all that stuff!

We had this issue when my grandmother passed away years ago. She had not only her house but also the cottage full of collectables, heirlooms and memories. Going through it all it was tough on us to decide what we wanted to keep and what to let go of…everything had memories. We had to make the decision to let the stuff we did not want go…so that my dads place did not become a landfill.

Here are my 5 tips on letting it go:

Take time for the memories – it’s okay to have the memories, cry if you have to, laugh if that is what comes up. Honour the memories, not the thing!

Take a photo or video of the object – photos and videos will help you preserve the memories but they take up so much less space.

Save one of a big collection – You do not have to keep all the teacups or frogs, pick one or two to keep the memory without keeping the whole collection.

Pay it forward – There are a lot of people out in the world that would honour and cherish the item if you let it go. Trust the universe to get it where it is needs to go. You do not honour your family treasures by storing them in a box, cluttering up your space and only looking at them once every 10 years or so. Let them go, and let others cherish them.

Release the guilt – Stuff is stuff. It is meant to make our life better. It is not meant to bury us and create chaos and anxiety and overwhelm. Please release the guilt about letting them go and allow yourself that it is just stuff.

People are NOT their things!   I repeat…PEOPLE ARE NOT THEIR THINGS!   We cannot keep everything that ever belongs to all our ancestors, we will be buried in the past with no room for the future. Make room for your future, honour the past respectfully but let the stuff go!

I am now giving you permission to let go of the extra stuff without the guilt!

If you want help letting it go, connect with me, I will coach your through it, in person or virtually wherever you are in the world. That is my mission in life – to help you release the overwhelm and calm your life!

http://kaossolutions.com/let-s-talk

Kim

Todays topic is about living with a non declutterer. Do you have people in your household who do not seem to care about the clutter that surrounds you? You get angry and frustrated that nobody else sees it or will take any initiative to clear it out?

It is possible to live with a non declutterer. I totally understand your frustrations as I have a husband who is a non declutterer. He either doesn’t see it and it does not bother him or if it is in an area where it does get to him he will gather it up and dump it someplace out of sight…and out of his mind, but drives me out of my mind lol.

We have been married for over 26 years now, so I am a testament to the fact that you can happily and peacefully live with a non declutterer.

Living Peacefully with a non declutterer pinterest picHere are my tried and true tips on living peacefully with a non declutterer…not all of them are easy and they all require you to change you mind frame!

  1. Stop expecting them to change! Stop fighting their natural tendencies/weaknesses and expecting them to care about what you care about or see what you see or be bothered by the stuff you are bothered by. You cannot change them…you can only change how you react to them.
  2. Make it easy for them to make decisions on clutter! Make it easy for them to be part of the process. When you start to declutter create a pile of their stuff to make decisions- then go through it with them quickly just making quick decisions if possible.
  3. Get Help! Is there someone who you know who can help you, someone who is non judgemental and help you move through the process. In our house it’s my daughter who is good at it and loves to help. If you do not have someone you can call on then it’s time to call me, a clutter coach can help you move through the piles faster, quicker and with support and understanding. Check out my declutter packages and give me a call today!
  4. LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY! Or you will end up nagging uncontrollably! You have to make that decisions to love them for all the wonderful things are and let go of the expectations of them being something else.

I know lots of you are saying ‘if they would just care’…the problem is you can’t make them care, you can’t make someone care about something that they don’t. Just like you cannot make yourself not care about it. You have to embrace who they are and who you are and be able to love each other unconditionally and work together on your strengths. They may have strengths that you do not so embrace the good and let go of the expectation of change.

I wish for you a peaceful calm home, life and family. That is what my job is all about and why I do what I do. I really believe that we have so much chaos going on in the world that you should be able to walk into your house, take a deep breath and that be your place of peace and joy.

If you live with someone who cannot help you, I am here to help! That is why I have created my Decluttering packages…to support you through the process of creating this calm!

Check them out today and give me a call to set up time to get started.

http://kaossolutions.com/tackle-the-clutter

Kim

decluttering struggle do you get stuck in memory lane

Do you get stuck in your memories when you try to declutter?  Taking so much time because you take a long trip down memory lane for each things you touch that you never actually get things done?

There are some tricks you can use to keep yourself on track and keep moving.  You Can Do This!

Imagine being able to honour the memories and still get through the piles.

My Dad is famous for his stories and when I was helping him downsize I found he took forever if he had an audience to tell his stories to. We got to the point where we had to give him assignments and send him off to do it himself because he got stuck in telling the story if he had someone to tell it to.  On his own he managed to move forward with moving deadlines keeping him going.

Everything has a story when you bring it into the light.  But you can move forward and make progress if you are determined.

Here are my top 4 tips for dealing with going down memory lane without getting stuck too long:

Understand Your Own Personal Tendencies – memories bring out emotions and if you are an emotional person it may take you longer to deal with these things.  Embrace the fact you may need more time than others and allow yourself to feel the feelings…just don’t get stuck there.

One Pile at A Time – don’t overwhelm yourself with a whole room when you start.  Do one pile/box at a time and reward yourself for each pile you get through.

set a timer to keep you on trackSet A Timer – give yourself a specific amount of time to trick your brain into keeping you on task.  If your mind knows its being timed it will do what it can to get things done in that time.  Be honest and realistic in your timing so you do not set yourself up for failure.

Preserve The Memory – take a picture of the object to help you preserve the memory without keeping everything you touch.  If you are a story teller, take the picture, then later when you have time do a video or journal about the memory!

It may feel like you will never get through the piles but I encourage you to take it one pile at a time, one box at a time.  The way to success is to keep moving forward no matter how slow.  Take a step, then another. 

If you are really struggling and can’t seem to get yourself moving on your own, give me a call.  My passion and mission in life is to help people like you to clear the overwhelm and live a peaceful calm life!  I can do that in person in the Greater Moncton Area or coach you virtually online.  Just don’t give up and do nothing!

Check out my decluttering and downsizing packages today! 

http://kaossolutions.com/downsizing

Wishing you a peaceful calm day!

Kim

3 tips to stop moving clutter from one room to anotherWhen you tackle a decluttering projects do you find yourself moving your clutter from one spot to another, making a bigger mess everywhere you go by spreading the clutter all around?

Being organized in your approach to decluttering can help stop the chaos from spreading and help you stay focused on the area you are working in.

I use to have this problem all the time, I would routinely make a bigger mess everywhere else as I was tackling a space, only to run out of time to tackled the other spaces I ‘messed up’ as I went. But over the past 12 years of being a professional Organizer I have learned the system to staying focused and getting a job done! Thank Goodness or I might have been out of a job if I made clients spaces messier than when I started lol

Tips to stay focused:

SORT IT OUT – before you move anything anywhere else think about what this clutter is, what goes together, and think about where it actually belongs. Have a box for the other areas in the home that the stuff that is moving actually belongs. Keep like with like to make putting it back easier after.

BE RUTHLESS AND REDUCE – Realize that to actually declutter you have to let things go not just move them around. Reduce – Reduce –Reduce. It’s all about simplifying your life and to do that you have to simplify how much stuff you have. Does this stuff serve you NOW? No, then let it go!

GIVE IT A HOME – To be organized everything has to have a home to live. Make the decisions while you go and decide where these things should live. PLAN the time to actually do this step so you don’t end up with a bunch of boxes full of stuff with no home.

stop moving clutterI know lots of you will resist the reducing and use the excuse that the stuff is important, I can’t possibly give it away. You have to be HONEST with yourself and make the decision of what you want your space to be, do you want it to be a peaceful calm home for you or do you want it to be a storage space for your stuff. You decide!!

If you have had enough of the clutter and struggle with tackling it on your own, check out my decluttering packages. Together we can get it done quicker, easier and I am a pro at keeping you focused on the task at hand!

Decluttering packages:  http://kaossolutions.com/downsizing

Your Personal Clutter Coach,

Kim