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Getting Motivated to Start Decluttering Are you overwhelmed by ALL the rooms and stuff that needs decluttered and organized? 

Do you find yourself so overwhelmed by the clutter and chaos that surrounds you that you just put it off and continue to procrastinate on taking action, leaving you frustrated with yourself for never getting started? 

it is possible to get motivated and the opportunity is there to take control of your space, your time and your life.

We all have these moments of frustration and overwhelmed in our life.  Even as a professional in the decluttering field my space can get out of control once in awhile.  My garage is often a thorn in my side, it can become a dumping ground, especially after a summer of neglect when I am not using it everyday…it is amazing what can pile up in there.  But I can tell you that once the first frost hits and I have to get in a cold frosty car, I get motivated to take action and reclaim my garage for my vehicle. 

Here are 4 steps you can take to get started:

1. START WITH YOUR WHY!  You have to have a compelling reason to move forward, the why becomes the reason you decide to take action…and that is where it all starts.  Know your why – maybe you want to feel better by eating healthier so you need to declutter and organize your kitchen, maybe you are just so frustrated with living in chaos that you desire a peaceful calm environment to live in or maybe you are ready to downsize and need to start reducing the amount of stuff you own.  Find your why…it will help motivate you to start!

2. FIGURE OUT WHERE TO START! Close your eyes and image you home…go to that spot that drives you the craziest, the place that frustrates you the most.  That is a great place to start.  If you are saying that everyplace drives you crazy, then go to your bedroom and start there – it is the last place you see at night and the first thing you see in the morning so it is a great place to start! Visualize and just pick a spot!

3. TAKE ACTION!  Stop thinking about it and start doing.  Make the DECISION to do it.  The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different result, if you keep thinking about it but never doing it, nothing will ever change…take some action, you will get results!  Put yourself in motion and take action!

4. GET HELP! If you cannot do this yourself then get some help.  Hire me, ask someone for help, find someone!  Get a good coach that can help you stay motivated, focused and help you move through the resistance.

You may be thinking you don’t have time and you can’t afford to hire a coach.  Well I am calling bullshit on these excuses.  We all choose what we spend our time and resources on.  If you really want to get your home decluttered and organized you will make it a priority, if you have a compelling why you will make the decision to do whatever it takes to get it done.  Stop making excuses and DECIDE to take action!

If you really want to take control of your space, simplify your life and have a great environment to come home to everyday to just breathe and be you then you will take the action, you will use the resources, you will find the money and the time to do it!

If you are ready to get that help and take action now, one of my coaching programs could be for you.  Check them out here : Kaos Coaching Programs

Decide today to take action!


 

Are you ready to clear the clutter on countertops and tables 1Is your kitchen table or counter top a landing strip for miscellaneous stuff – bills, keys, chargers, junk mail, school notes, bags, tags, receipts, newspapers, toys, thingies and more?  


You are not alone in this challenge; the kitchen counter is one of the most cluttered spaces in homes.  It is such an convenient place to drop things when you walk in the house that it naturally gathers ‘stuff’.

Have you tried putting a basket there to gather the stuff, only to have the basket quickly get filled up and overflow?  Have you yelled and nagged to all the family to clear the crap, only to have them ignore you?  Have you spent hours cleaning the space up to look clear and calm for a bit, only for it to fill back in?

Are you ready to tame that counter top chaos?

Here’s some steps to help you do it:

Step 1 – Understand What it is -  First you have to understand what all the stuff that is gathering is.  Sorting each item into like piles so you can actually visually see what it is.  You may have piles such as junk mail, school notices, newspapers, receipts, makeup, cords, glasses and any number of other stuff.  It is important to really see what it all is, that becomes the base of any organizing system.

Step 2 – Eliminate the garbage – Take a look at your pile and see how much of it is garbage.  Often a lot of stuff that gathers is stuff that just did not make it to the garbage or recycle bin.  If this is the case then keep in mind you need to have a garbage close to this area, even if it is just a little bucket garbage can for papers as they come into the space. 

Step 3 – Create a Home. Take a look at what is left, this is where you will get the ideas for what needs organized.  Creating a home and a system for this stuff is the key to keeping the clutter under control.

Are there a lot of things that have a home elsewhere in your house but just did not make it back there – like toys or electronics?  Create a temporary space that holds all these misplaced things.

Have a basket for each person in the house where their stuff gets placed in it for them to clean up and take care of. Make it a habit before meals or before bedtime to hand everyone their baskets to go put things away…or if daily is too much, do it once a week. Giving a home to this stuff and a system to get it off the counter will take some habit breaking and remaking but it can be done!

When my kids were young and we had more stuff laying around, I actually had a whole drawer for counter top junk.  I would dump all the stuff left on my counters into this drawer, so when anyone was looking for their junk that they left lying around they knew where to look. Once a month I would clean it out, they were all warned to go through the drawer and get their stuff out…otherwise I was going to throw it out or give it away.   My drawer was a big one and I had a few baskets to subdivide the stuff.  It’s funny now as I look at that drawer and wonder where I put all the kitchen things that are now in it, the reality at the time was it was more important to have a space for all that junk to save my sanity then it was to have the baking dishes that are now in it. This is where you have to make decisions on the best use of your space for where you are NOW…knowing as things change so can your space use.

file organizerStep 4 – Tame the paper.  Paper is often a big issue on counters.  A lot of people, if they do have a filing system, have it someplace like an office or basement desk area.  Unfortunately, the bulk of paper comes into the main space like the kitchen and more often then not gets dropped there ‘for now’ and never leaves.  I suggest you create a paper system that will work where the paper actually flows into.  Having a place to put bills, school notices, coupons and other stuff will stop it from getting dropped on the counter and creating counter clutter. A table top file container works wonders as does a bulletin board for notices and such.

Clutter is just unmade decisions. Kitchen counter and table clutter gathers when you drop things there ‘just for now’. Creating an easy to use system can make it easier to decide what to do with that clutter. Dedication to use the system can help keep that clutter at bay. It may still gather occasionally but if you have a place to put it, the time it takes to tidy up will be reduced!  In this busy world we live in saving time and brain power is a necessity!

Now go tackle that clutter and send me a picture of your clear counters or of you actually having a meal at your table!  

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Kim


Bonus Tip: One way to keep the clutter off the table is to decide to eat at the table everyday…so you HAVE to keep it clutter free. Some clients I have actually keep their table set all the time in order to break themselves of the habit of putting other junk on it.  A table that is already set will gather no clutter as it is already in use, and it looks pretty too!

table is set

Camping Lesson How Much Stuff Do I Really Need To Survive My husband and I went camping this weekend for the first time in years…well to be totally honest we cheated a little, even though we were in the campground at Fundy Park we stayed in one of the parks permanent tents called an Otentik. It was a good compromise as we do not own a trailer and my body said no to sleeping on the ground in a tent lol. The Otentik was like a little cabin in the woods.

It was exciting to get back to the wilderness and enjoy a few days in the woods hiking and sitting around the campfire. During the weekend I had a big aha moment as I was doing the dishes from our breakfast. I realized how little we really need to be happy and enjoy life. EVERYTHING I needed to cook with, eat off of, drink from and clean with fit in one box. Yes, one box! I have a huge kitchen at home, with LOTS of stuff in it, but when push comes to shove I only really need ONE box of stuff to survive and be happy with. It was a clarity moment about how much stuff we surround ourselves with that we don’t actually need, and that the maintenance of that much stuff takes up valuable time to keep it clean, valuable space to house it and valuable brain power to think about it. Less stuff = more time for peace and fun!

camping boxWhen I was camping it was so easy to decide what pot to use as I only had two – one big and one little. It was easy to clean up after too, as we only had a few dishes that took us less than 10 minutes to clean – without a dishwasher too! It was great, and left a lot of time to relax by the fire, hike on the trails and visit with other campers.

So my challenge to you this week is to think about what you REALLY need to survive. Could reducing the amount of stuff surrounding you clear the way for you to have more time and space to enjoy your life? Does all that stuff you have actually make your life simpler or does it make it more complicated, cluttered and overwhelming?

Think about it! And if you are ready to tackle the excess and reduce what you own, come join my Facebook group where I share inspiration, motivation and information on living a clutter free life. There is a video in the group about my lesson learned on this trip, check it out:

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Come connect with us today!

Kim

inside otentikme and the otentik

Will there be family disharmony after you are gone 1

Okay nobody likes talking about the end. But the reality is we are all human, we are all born and we all die. There is an end to your time here on earth in the body you currently have, in the life you are living, surrounded by the stuff you use. We don’t know when that end will come, it can be sooner than we expected or we can live a long time. But at this point we will not live forever.

Anyone that knows me knows, I am not afraid to talk about the hard stuff. I have seen too many families ignore the hard conversations while someone is alive, then they have to deal with making decisions after a loved one is gone while emotions are running high. I have seen families fight, split apart and hold grudges for YEARS all over ‘things’. It makes me sad. I want to shout IT IS JUST STUFF! But to them the stuff represents so much more.

I understand that the things represent more than the material matter they are made of. They represent the loss of a loved one, they represent control of a situation, they represent holding on, they represent feeling respected, they represent being connected and they represent thousands of other feelings and emotions too.

I implore you today, to think about who will be left after you are gone, what will be left after you are gone and how you can reduce family disharmony over your stuff before it happens.

Here are a few tips to get you started:

#1 TALK TO THEM – I know this sounds simple but it amazes me how many people cannot have this conversation. I know it can be hard, but if you have an open and honest conversation about what they may want, what you want them to have, who gets what…it can save a lot of heartache later.

#2 WRITE IT DOWN – Write letters to those that will be left behind, let them know in writing what your wishes are and lovingly ask them to respect and love each other through the hard times. Written words can be powerful!

#3 LABEL THINGS - Have labels on bigger things, so when your ‘stuff’ is being cleared out, they will know who gets what according to your wishes. Just don’t make them take stuff they do not want…make it their choice please, ask before you label!

#4 MAKE THEM PLAY – if siblings or other family members cannot come to an agreement over who gets what, leave them instructions that they must play a game to see who gets it. Rock, paper, scissors works well and can break the tension.

#5 DON’T HAVE A LOT OF STUFF – You know I had to add this one in, right? Living simplistically and reducing what you have now will make it so much easier for family to settle after. Less stuff, means less stuff to fight about.

The loss of a loved one is always an emotional time, it brings out the best and worst in us. Family disharmony is commom, too common for my liking. Setting the stage and opening communication early in life makes dealing with a sad loss so much easier. Encouraging our loved ones to support and work with each other during that sad time, instead of against each other, leaves a legacy of love and understanding that far outreaches the ‘STUFF’ left behind.

You are NOT your stuff…ensure today that your family know that!

Xox Kim

moving through the heartache of dealing with a loved ones stuff 300x300The pain of losing a loved one is all consuming, it cuts right to the soul and breaks your heart.  The aftermath of losing a loved one is often hard for anyone to verbalize. Everyone deals with death differently.  From my experience you cannot predict how someone will react and get through it. There are no specific timelines, no specific route to getting through it and I can tell you that you NEVER get over it.  You can just learn to accept it and learn how to live your new normal without your loved ones physical presence.

When a loved one passes, they leave behind not only heartache but also ‘stuff’.  Their presence is felt in all the things that they used, all the clothes that they wore, all their precious mementos they collected.  Those left behind are then tasked with having to decided what to do with all the stuff left behind. I work regularly with people who have to go through their loved one’s possessions, it is a heartbreaking task but a necessary one to move forward. 

Although the task is not simple here are 8 tips to help you move through the heartache of releasing a loved one's stuff after they pass:


Wait if possible - Give yourself some time before you tackle this if possible.  Allow yourself the time to grieve the loved one and feel a little stronger before you take on this task, unless time is limited to settle the space.

Grieve as you go - As you go through the process you may feel like you are giving away a piece of your loved one with every possession you let go. This is normal and part of the whole grieving process. What is important during this time is to allow for the grieving to happen - cry, yell, whatever you need to do to let the emotions out.  Feel the feeling and then move on.

Honour their memory - Choose how you are going to honor the memory of your loved one with the stuff you do keep.  Keep only things that bring you joy when thinking of them. The reality is we cannot keep everything from everyone, so choose wisely what you will keep and ensure you honor their memory by honoring the possessions you keep.  Storing boxes and boxes of their stuff in an attic or basement does not honour their memory, choose to pay it forward and allow others to be blessed by the stuff, giving your loved one’s possession new life.

Take Pictures – If there are things that have great memories but you know you cannot keep, take a picture of the item to keep in a memory file.  Whenever you are missing your loved one, you can look at the pictures and remember the joy without having all the stuff take up space.

Share their stuff with others that loved them – Allow family and close friends to choose something if they want.  Once you have decided what you must keep, allow others that loved them to choose something that brings them joy and reminds them of your loved one.  Keeping the love alive and their memories cherished.

Release the rest to the Universe – it is not your job to distribute each and every item individually.  It is not your job to know where everything is going.  Send possessions off to Goodwill and allow the universe to get those possessions in the hands of those that most need them.  You do not have to do all the work! Send them with love and let them go.


Get Help – If this task is just to big and too much for you to tackle on your own then ask for help.  A trusted friend, family member or a professional.  Getting help can make the process quicker and easier than doing it alone.  Be honest about what you can handle on your own and ask for help when you decide you are not able to do it by yourself.  There is no shame in needing help during a difficult time. This help will need to be firm but loving to keep you moving.

BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF – there is no easy way to do this task.  Be patient and kind to yourself, take breaks when you need them and don’t forget to breathe as you go. 

You cannot keep everything of a loved ones.  That is the hard truth, but you can keep the memories.  Your memories of your loved ones are yours to keep.  No one can take those from you.  Remember the joy, remember the fun, remember the love.    

If you feel you cannot do this alone, I would be honoured to help you through this process.  Come join our Support Group or contact us for one on one care. With gentle guidance and support we can move you forward through this difficult task. 

Honouring you and your loved ones,

Kim xox

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