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I have been working with a client who lost her husband 2 years ago. The pain of missing him is strong but the need to let go of some of his stuff is now critical as she has moved to an apartment. As we go through this process together my job is to support her as she goes through the heartache and grief, allowing her to feel the feelings then let go.

We are creating a memory trunk of the stuff she keeps, it will be a place to keep possession that honour his memory for her and his kids. It has a defined space which allows her to make decisions based on what really deserves to be in that trunk.

We cannot keep ALL our loved ones possessions...we just can't! That is the cold hard truth.

Imagine if you had to keep everything that belonged to every person in your family that is now gone - parents, grandparents, great grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc...it would be too much, overwhelming and in the end all that stuff would block you from living in the now and moving forward...there would be no room for you!

Keep a few things, keep the memories, keep the love. The rest is just stuff!

xox Kim

#Solvingthedownsizingdilemma

solving the downsizing dilemma pinterest coverHave you started the process of downsizing your stuff only to get stuck and overwhelmed by the sheer volume of “things” you have?

I have fantastic news for you…I can help! 

I am excited to let you know that today my new book, Solving The Downsizing Dilemma PS: Your Kids Don't Want All Your Stuff, is ready for you to get your hot little hands on. And to celebrate the launch, I am offering the Kindle version for … wait for it… only $0.99! Yes, you read that correctly! Plus if you’re the type who likes to have a printed version, the soft cover is also available for order today, with the Kindle added free so you can start it right away while you wait for it to arrive.

Imagine! For less than the price of a cheap cup of java, my book will show you how to…

1) Create a workable plan to stay sane while downsizing;

2) Decide what to keep and what to throw away;

3) Cope with letting “memories” go;

4) Deal with the aftermath of moving…

And much, much more!

The process of downsizing and releasing stuff can be an emotional rollercoaster ride. Saying good-bye to your beloved things exacts a toll on everyone who goes through this process.

Folks, do yourself and your kids a huge favour and get the Kindle version of Solving The Downsizing Dilemma right now!

Here is the link to get your copy: https://amzn.to/2LXLKF2

If you’re a baby boomer or having aging parents, at some point you’re going to be moving from the big house with all those huge rooms to a much smaller and easier to maintain home. Trust me. You’re going to love having this book to guide you through the downsizing journey.

But hurry because the special price of .99 is for a limited time only.

Here’s that link again – https://amzn.to/2LXLKF2

Thanks in advance for taking the time out of your busy schedule to purchase this wonderful “how to” book. I appreciate your support!

PS: Once you’ve read the book, could you hop on over to Amazon and leave a review? Part of my mission for this book is to help relieve as much of the stress that downsizing causes in our lives. Your review will help spread the word that there is help for this common yet often overwhelming part of life.

I really do appreciate the help!

Happy downsizing!

Kim

 

dealing with too many clothes 2Are you closets bursting at the seams, drawers stuffed full and clothes hanging out on chairs, floors, in laundry baskets and other surfaces?

Imagine being able to open your closet with ease and getting dressed in the morning in peace! It can be done with a little work and some general guidance.

Imagine walking into your laundry room and seeing the floor!

So let’s get started:

Step #1 Establish a base camp – this is where you are going to gather ALL your clothes.

Step #2 Gather ALL YOUR CLOTHES – go find all your clothes and bring them into base camp. Start Step #3 at this time too!

Step #3 Do your laundry – Start your laundry and as it is done bring the clothing into base camp. (this can be happening while you are doing the other steps so you don’t lose momentum)

Step #4 Sort It Out – Put your clothing into categories that make sense to you.   Like with Like based on how you use them, when you use them and what function they serve in your life. This is a key step to getting organized, do not skip this step!!!!

Step #5 PURGE – Time to let go of all those things that you do not wear, need or love NOW. This is a tough step but make the decision based on what is serving you in your life now…does that clothing make you feel fabulous NOW, is it comfortable NOW, does it get used NOW. Let go of the past and live in the NOW!

Step #6 Get HELP if you are struggling – sometimes you just have to have someone else to be there to help you move through the process and help you make the decisions. Ask a compassionate friend, family member of hire a professional organizer to get you through the process with grace and ease. Contact me if you want my help, we can do this in person or virtually!

The myth most people fall back on is ‘I don’t have enough closet space’. From my over a decade of experience this is normally not true…most people use 20% of what they own, if you only kept what you needed and used you most likely have enough room….AND its is so much easier to maintain. 

Benefits of decluttering your clothes 2Benefits of decluttering your clothing and closets include – simplify your life, save time and reduce anxiety. It is worth the little bit of effort!

To get my help contact me here:

http://kaossolutions.com/declutter

Kim

 

 

 

5 Questions To Ask Yourself i might maybe someday need thisDo you find yourself stalled trying to declutter your space because you keep thinking you might, maybe someday need this stuff? Everything seems to have a ‘potential’ use and you KNOW just when you let that go you will need it. So you keep it…and never use it.

The law of attraction comes into play when we let things go. The law states what we focus on expands. It’s like when you buy a new car, all of a sudden you see that car everywhere, because you are focused on it…looking for them. The same thing happens when you declutter, the stuff you ruminate about letting go of will all of a sudden be needed, because your're looking for an ‘I told you so’ about letting it go.  

But I can tell you from 12 years of experience that when you do let that stuff go, even when you may need it in the future you find an alternative solutions and only miss it for a few minutes, a lot less time than you most likely would have spent searching for it in your cluttered space.

I use to be a preschool teacher, decades ago, and I could see potential in all kinds of stuff that could be used for crafts for the kids. All you crafters out there know what I am talking about…with a creative mind EVERYTHING has the potential be transformed into something else, so you keep everything. Eventually you have so much you can’t possibly use it all. At some point I had to really evaluate all the stuff I was keeping, some of it had been in my pile for years and I never used it. So I spent some time decluttering and letting the unused stuff go, being realistic that if I had not used it in years I was not going to.

To Help you evaluate things to let go here are 5 Questions I ask myself and my clients when they are struggling with letting things go that they think they might, maybe someday need:

  1. What is the worst thing that can happen if you don’t have that item?
  2. Will you actually be able to find it if you did need it?
  3. Could it be replaced by something else in the house?
  4. Could you borrow the same item from someone else if you needed it?
  5. Is it worth the cost to store it indefinitely?

What you focus on expandsWe all think we need to be prepared for everything, the trade off is a cluttered overwhelmed space. I believe we can live a simpler life with less to maintain. Instead of focusing on what we let go of, how about focusing on what you get – a clear, calm simplified home.

If you are struggling with letting things go and decluttering you space it’s time to get help:

http://kaossolutions.com/declutter

Kim

5 Tips on releasing family treasures nobody wants

Have you become your family landfill? Do you have all these family treasures that have memories or are family heirlooms that nobody wants but they also don’t want you to get rid of them.

It is possible to preserve the memories without keeping everything and without being the family landfill. You do not have to keep all that stuff!

We had this issue when my grandmother passed away years ago. She had not only her house but also the cottage full of collectables, heirlooms and memories. Going through it all it was tough on us to decide what we wanted to keep and what to let go of…everything had memories. We had to make the decision to let the stuff we did not want go…so that my dads place did not become a landfill.

Here are my 5 tips on letting it go:

Take time for the memories – it’s okay to have the memories, cry if you have to, laugh if that is what comes up. Honour the memories, not the thing!

Take a photo or video of the object – photos and videos will help you preserve the memories but they take up so much less space.

Save one of a big collection – You do not have to keep all the teacups or frogs, pick one or two to keep the memory without keeping the whole collection.

Pay it forward – There are a lot of people out in the world that would honour and cherish the item if you let it go. Trust the universe to get it where it is needs to go. You do not honour your family treasures by storing them in a box, cluttering up your space and only looking at them once every 10 years or so. Let them go, and let others cherish them.

Release the guilt – Stuff is stuff. It is meant to make our life better. It is not meant to bury us and create chaos and anxiety and overwhelm. Please release the guilt about letting them go and allow yourself that it is just stuff.

People are NOT their things!   I repeat…PEOPLE ARE NOT THEIR THINGS!   We cannot keep everything that ever belongs to all our ancestors, we will be buried in the past with no room for the future. Make room for your future, honour the past respectfully but let the stuff go!

I am now giving you permission to let go of the extra stuff without the guilt!

If you want help letting it go, connect with me, I will coach your through it, in person or virtually wherever you are in the world. That is my mission in life – to help you release the overwhelm and calm your life!

http://kaossolutions.com/declutter

Kim