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5 Steps to Dealing with the Overwhelm of Too Much StuffIs your home stacked full of too much stuff? Are you overwhelmed with the sheer amount of stuff you have and have no idea what to do with it all?

Imagine living in a space that is clear, clean and uncluttered. Imagine a simplified life where you can move around your space easily. Imagine being able to find your stuff.

The overwhelm in your space can affect your mental state. I had a client dealing with major depression and the overwhelm around his home was too much for him to handle. While he was away we spent several days clearing out the space and organizing the home. When he arrived home it totally transformed how he felt in that space and his road to recovery was helped by the fact that their space was less overwhelming.

it is important to understand the connections between your environment and your mental and emotional states. There is a huge connection there. Dealing with that overwhelm of having too much stuff can affect your health.

STEPS TO DEALING WITH OVERWHELM

Breathe – I want you to take a deep breath in and a deep breath out! Calm yourself down, breathe and ground yourself first.

Dream – What do you want? How do you want your space to feel, what do you dream for your space, what does it feel like? Understanding the end results before you tackle the stuff.

** Decide to take ACTION – You have to take action to make any movement forward. You have to decide you are worth it, your family is worth it and your home is worth it. You have to take ACTION!

Break It Down – Plan out what you are going to do. Pick a spot to start. If everything is driving you crazy start with your bedroom, it is the first thing you see in the morning and last space you see every night. Break it down into the spaces you are going to tackle first.

Get Help – If you cannot get it done on your own, if you have struggled trying to do it yourself then get help. If you do not have the skills to do it on your own, stop beating yourself up for not being good at decluttering or organizing and not having those skills. If you want my help check out my Moving Forward Coaching Packages.

I know some of you beat yourself up thinking it should be easy. Well it is NOT. Only 15% of the population is naturally organized, some of us are great at teaching and coaching too. I am sure there are lots of things you are better than others at, we cannot all be experts in all fields. So if you are struggling, ask for some help and guidance.   

And don't forget to BREATHE!!

PS Here is the link to the Moving Forward Coaching Packages  http://kaossolutions.com/let-s-talk

Resolve to let the clutter go this year 1

We have become of society that is overwhelmed with everything that is coming at us and everything that is surrounding us. The rates of anxiety and depression have skyrocketed over the past 10 years and I truly believe that some of the cause is that we are surrounded by too much…too much stuff, too much information, too much constant binging and notifications, too many demands on our money, on our time, on our mind and our emotions. We just can’t take it anymore.

Your outer world reflects your inner world, and vice versa. If there is too much physical clutter in your life, your mind, body and spirit react to that and get overwhelmed. Overwhelmed bodies get sick, overwhelmed minds get scattered and jittery (anxiety) and overwhelmed spirits retreat (depression).

It’s time to clear that out and take back your life! Resolve to clear the clutter this year.

Some examples of great decluttering resolutions include:

Resolving to clear out certain areas of your space –

This year:

I am going to create a bedroom that is my retreat from the world.
I am going to declutter and organize my kitchen to support healthier eating habits.
I am going to get my car IN the garage.
I am going to keep only what supports my life now and pay it forward all the stuff I do not need, use or want anymore.

Resolving to clear mental clutter-

This year:
I am going to turn off notifications and take time to disconnect
I am going to say NO more often to things I do not want to do
I am going to stop worrying about what is not mine

Resolving to clear spiritual/emotional clutter:

This year:
I am going to take time to be still and breath
I am going to learn to breath and not react in anger so easily
I am going to go to a yoga class
I am going to learn to meditate
I am going to release my limiting beliefs and work on focusing on beliefs that empower me.

What's the secret to sticking with them?

It takes perseverance and determination to release old habits and create new ones. If you try to do too much at once you most likely will not be successful. My advice is to pick one area and start there. Stick with it and be okay when you fall off the wagon for a minute. Don’t spend time beating yourself up for falling off…just get back on and try again. Then add more as you get comfortable. It’s like starting at the gym, you don’t go in and immediately start running 20km…you work your way up to whatever your goal is. Little by little, bite by bite, one piece of clutter at a time!

How do we keep from feeling overwhelmed when we tackle that first task?

Breathe! Know that you are taking on a new challenge and learning new skills as you go, so you won’t be an expert when you first start and that is okay! Just breath and keep moving forward.

Find people or a group to support you through the process. Join my clutter support group on Facebook or find your own little group to work though the process together.

If the task is way over your skill set and you have failed at it in the past, then please hire a coach to help you through it. There is nothing wrong with asking for help for something that is not your strong suit. We don’t think twice about getting a coach or taking a course to learn to golf, ski or even learn business skills so why would you be hesitant to get a coach to help you learn to declutter and let go if that is what you need!

What if the clutter in your space is someone else's..like children who've moved out or parents who've decided to downsize and send all their stuff your way?

First – if it is in YOUR house, it is your clutter. So keep that in mind when dealing with other people’s stuff who do not live in your house.

For kids who have grown and moved out, it is a matter of gathering it all up and asking them if they want it. You cannot know what is important to other people, so ask them. Then give them a deadline to get it out of your space. If the kids are still in University or are just starting to get settled but not quite there yet, then you need to make the decision of how long you want to be their storage unit. A few months, a few years, a few decades?? There is nothing wrong with holding their stuff for a while IF you have the room and it is not interfering in your life!

Downsizing parents are a whole other ball game. My next book coming out this year is all about solving the downsizing dilemma. Parents want to give us all their stuff to make it easier on them to let it go…which results in us becoming the family landfill. The biggest things I can say here is learn to say NO thank you and then help them figure out how to let it go gently. They need to learn that their kids don’t want all their stuff……and stay tuned for the book launch in the next couple of months.

Resolving to releast the clutter this year will set you free to have the life you deserve and desire.  

Wishing you all peace and calm,

Kim

Listen here to my Interview on this subject on CBC Information Morning with Jonna Brewer

Undecorating

Post Christmas Wrap Up: Un-Decorating

Well Christmas is over for another year and although there are still lots of festivities going on as we prepare for New Years it is time to think about putting away all our Christmas and Holiday decor…Boxing Up Day can be anytime from now till early January. You know, the day to box all that decor up for another year! I can tell you from experience that by taking the time now to put away your decorations in an organized way, will save you lots of time and frustration come next year. As a self professed Christmas nut I have 4 trees and loads of decorations that I put up every year and subsequently need to put away. By having lots of Rubbermaid containers and labelling the boxes really well it allows me to be able to easily decorate next year.

The following are a few tips for Un-Decorating this year:

• Take the time this year to put decorations away carefully. A few extra minutes this year can save you hours next year.
• Take pictures before you un-decorate and keep them in your Christmas journal for reference next year.
• Decide on a location to store seasonal decorations, large Rubbermaid containers store lots of decorations and can be stacked to use vertical space.
• Store decorations by room/category- e.g. living room décor, living room tree; Kitchen décor, Christmas baking supplies; Christmas entertaining; Outdoor décor, Outdoor lights.
• LABEL all your boxes, the more detailed the label the better.
• Store individual light sets in plastic bags to keep them from tangling together or wrap them on a reel. This works well for beads and garland as well.
• Store candles in socks or nylons to prevent scratching
• When putting tree ornaments away ensure they are carefully wrapped to prevent breakage. They can be layered in boxes with heavier ones on bottom. If they are very fragile consider storing them in the boxes they came in or invest in Christmas ornament boxes, they are little more money but will safeguard those antique ornaments of your grandmothers that are priceless. Another idea is to use plastic or foam cups to put them in and keep them separate.
• Store Christmas music with your seasonal stuff, I always make sure the music is on top and easy to access as it is the first thing that come out (Kenny and Dolly are always the first CD to be played while decorating).

Happy Un-Decorating and if you have any suggestions or tips that help you stay organized while Un-Deocrating please leave a comment and share with us.

Kim